Faith Beyond the Senses: What a Mystery Host and a Trauma Expert Taught Me About Trust
When two powerful conversations collide in 24 hours, you pay attention.
Something happened this week that I have to share with you.
Within 24 hours, I experienced two conversations that hit the same nerve from completely different angles and when that happens, I've learned to pay attention.
The first was our Grow Rich Mastermind call, where we had a surprise mystery host step in: Albion Derbyshire. The second was a webinar with Dr. Gabor Maté, one of the world's leading experts on trauma and healing.
What struck me? They were both talking about the same thing.
Trust. Faith. And reconnecting with the parts of ourselves we learned to abandon.
Let me explain.
The 85% You Can't See
I wrote it down. It jumped out at me.
About 85% of what transforms our lives can't be seen with our eyes or heard with our ears. Our senses give us feedback, but they can't tell us the deeper things."
He went on: "When you're stepping out in faith, you can't always trust your senses. You have to trust deeper inside."
Have you had a moment where your gut was screaming one thing and your logical mind was screaming another. How often do you catch yourselves ignoring that gut feeling, then regretting it later? How often did ignoring the scream work out?
I asked this of myself. It helped. I hope it helps you too.
Most Indigenous peoples understand that there's something more out there. Something beyond what we can measure and prove. Faith is the substance of things hoped for. And when we believe something deeply, it seems to create evidence for itself. Life gets better. We handle the hard stuff differently.
"I can't prove God is real," Albi said, "but, He has changed me 100%. The world is a beautiful place. I love people more. I can handle the craziness in life."
That's not logic. That's faith made practical.
*Our Parents: The First Mirror of Trust*
Albi said something in his message that connected directly to what I heard from Dr. Maté.
"Parents are often our first representation of trust. When they say 'stop before you cross the road' or 'tie your shoes,' we believe them because they care for us. That's faith built in.
When we don't give our children something solid to believe in, we miss giving them trust in the invisible."
You probably heard this, maybe even told your adult children this: “We did the best we could with what we had. Does it sound familiar?
I believe that is true- parents did the best they could with what they had.
I think about my own parents. They were following Dr. Spock, one book, very little information, and advice like "let your baby cry it out." That was the wisdom of the time. They weren't trying to create disconnection. They were trying to do it RIGHT.
But here's what Gabor Maté helped me understand...
Trauma is what happens to you on the inside, Trauma is the wound.
Dr. Maté said
"Trauma isn't what happened to you. It's the wound you sustained and unless it heals, it keeps hurting."
He explained that we don't need severe abuse to experience disconnection. A stressed parent. A home with tension. Being told to sit in your room alone. Being punished for having big emotions. These "small" moments teach children something powerful:
To survive, I need to disconnect from myself.
Your gut feeling said something was wrong, but you learned to ignore it. Your authentic self wanted to say no, but you learned that saying yes kept the peace and kept you loved.
This isn't weakness. It's survival. A child depends on attachment for literal survival. So when there's a conflict between being authentic and being accepted... attachment wins. Every time.
The problem? We carry that programming into adulthood. Long after we need it.
*The Question That Changes Everything
Here's where both Albi's wisdom and Dr. Maté's teaching converge into something practical.
Dr. Maté introduced what he calls "compassionate inquiry." It's the difference between:
❌ "Why the heck did I do that?!" (judgment, shame, frustration)
✅ "Hm... I wonder why I did that?" (curiosity, compassion, openness)
That small shift? It changes EVERYTHING.
When we react, when we people-please, when we can't say no, when we explode in anger, when we shut down, we're not broken. We're responding from an old wound that hasn't healed yet.
But when we become AWARE... when we catch ourselves and get curious instead of critical... we create a gap.
And in that gap? Freedom.
Awareness Is a Skill
This is the part I want you to really hear:
Awareness is a skill. And like any skill, it can be developed.
You weren't born disconnected from yourself. At one year old, you knew exactly what you felt. By eighteen months to two, you were saying "NO!" with zero guilt.
Somewhere along the way, you learned to stop. To be "good." To keep the peace.
But that authentic self? It's still in there. It never left.
Albi said it beautifully: "When you believe something, it seems to have evidence for itself."
What if you started believing you could reconnect with yourself? What if you approached your reactions with curiosity instead of criticism? What if you trusted that deeper knowing — even when your senses couldn't confirm it?
That's faith made practical. That's healing in action.
A Simple Practice to Reconnect
Dr. Maté shared an exercise I want to pass along to you. I started today. It's simple and powerful when you do it consistently:
Once a week, sit down and ask yourself these five questions:
1. Where did I have trouble saying NO this week? (Don't judge - just observe.)
2. What was the impact? (Physical? Emotional? Resentment? Exhaustion?)
3. What's the hidden belief? (If I say no, I'll be selfish / unloved / disappointing / etc.)
4. Where did I learn this story? (You weren't born with it. Where did it come from?)
5. Where am I not saying YES to myself? (To rest, to joy, to self-care, to things that fill me up?)
That's it. No massive overhaul. Just gentle, weekly awareness.
Because here's the truth: You can't heal what you can't see. And you can't see what you're not willing to look at with compassion.
The Intersection of Faith and Healing
I like how Albi's message on faith and Dr. Maté's teaching on trauma work together.
Faith says: Trust what you can't see. There's something deeper. Your gut knows things your mind can't prove.
Healing says: Reconnect with yourself. The disconnection was survival, not failure. You can come back home to who you really are.
Both say: Awareness is the key. Compassion is the path. And you are not broken, you're carrying wounds that can heal.
Our parents did their best. We're doing our best. And now, with more awareness, we can do better, not from judgment, but from love.
An Invitation
If this resonated with you, I'd love to have you join us on the Grow Rich Mastermind. It's a space where we show up for each other, explore these principles together, and grow in wealth, yes, but more importantly, in wisdom and self-connection.
Because as Albi reminded us: "Way more than marketing, money and success... it's love."
**[Listen to the full replay at growrichaudios.com →]**
And if you want to go deeper on the awareness practice I shared above, stay tuned. I'll be sharing more tools and exercises to help you reconnect with yourself —one compassionate question at a time.
Here's to trusting the 85% we can't see.
Here's to healing the wounds we didn't know we were carrying.
And here's to doing better, because now we know better.
With love and faith,
Lorisue
P.S. The next time you catch yourself in a reaction, pause. Take a breath. And instead of "What's wrong with me?", try, "I wonder what that was about?"
That one question might just change everything. 💛
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